Saved, Single and Over 40: Have I Been Forgotten
Whether you are single because of divorce, loss, or because you’ve never been married, this season can feel complicated. You may look around and wonder how you ended up here — single, over 40, and still waiting for the promises you believed would’ve come to pass by now. But the truth is, you are not behind. You are right where God needs you to be.
Your Story Still Matters
So often, society tries to define a person’s worth by their relationship status. But God defines us by something much deeper — our identity in Him. Isaiah 43:1 says, “I have called you by name; you are Mine.” You are not forgotten, overlooked, or left out. You are known, loved, and chosen by a God who writes beautiful stories in His perfect timing.
This season isn’t wasted. Maybe you’ve spent years healing from heartbreak, rediscovering who you are, or raising children alone. Or perhaps you’ve poured yourself into your career, ministry, or personal growth, wondering if it’s too late for love. It’s not too late for anything that God has planned for you.
Finding Purpose in This Season
Singleness over 40 isn’t a pause on life — it’s a sacred opportunity to live it fully. It’s a time to deepen your relationship with Christ, to walk in purpose, and to serve others from a place of wisdom and grace. You can travel, build new friendships, start a ministry, or finally step into the dream God placed in your heart years ago.
When we stop viewing singleness as an absence and start seeing it as an assignment, everything changes. You are not “waiting” for life to begin — you’re living it right now, and God is using this time to shape your heart and prepare you for what’s ahead.
When Loneliness Creeps In
Let’s be honest — there are days when the quiet feels heavy. Maybe you miss companionship or wonder if anyone will ever see your heart the way God does. But in those moments, remember Psalm 34:18: “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
You don’t walk this journey alone. God is near. And often, He surrounds us with community — friends, church family, and others — to remind us of His love and faithfulness.
Faith Over Frustration
Faith doesn’t mean pretending the longing isn’t there. It means trusting God even when we don’t understand the “why” or “when.” It means believing that His plans are good — even if they don’t look like ours. Romans 8:28 promises that “all things work together for good to those who love God and are called according to His purpose.”
So, whether your path to singleness was by choice or circumstance, remember that God wastes nothing. He can use every chapter — even the ones that broke you — to write something beautiful.
Prayer and Reflection
Heavenly Father,
Thank You for seeing me, loving me, and calling me Yours. In moments when I feel unseen or forgotten, remind me that I am complete in You.
Help me to embrace this season of singleness with peace and purpose. Teach me to trust Your timing, to rest in Your promises, and to find joy in Your presence.
Heal every place that still hurts from disappointment, and fill every empty space with Your love. Use this season to strengthen my faith and prepare me for all that You have planned.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Help me to embrace this season of singleness with peace and purpose. Teach me to trust Your timing, to rest in Your promises, and to find joy in Your presence.
Heal every place that still hurts from disappointment, and fill every empty space with Your love. Use this season to strengthen my faith and prepare me for all that You have planned.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
1. What has God been teaching you about yourself during this season of singleness?
2. In what ways can you use this time to grow spiritually, emotionally, or relationally?
3. Are there areas where you’ve been holding onto frustration or fear instead of faith?
4. How can you shift your focus from waiting for what’s next to living fully in what God is doing now?
Take time to journal your thoughts, pray through them, and ask the Holy Spirit to show you how to find peace and purpose in this chapter of your life. Remember — your singleness is not a setback, it’s a setup for something beautiful.
A Note from His Beloved Life Coach and Mentoring
If this message encouraged you, I invite you to stay connected with His Beloved Life Coach and Mentoring. Together, we walk through seasons of change, healing, and rediscovery — finding joy, freedom, and purpose in Christ.
Visit hisbelovedcoach.com to learn more about coaching sessions, devotionals, and resources designed to help you live a life rooted in faith and purpose.
You are seen. You are chosen. You are deeply loved.
Visit hisbelovedcoach.com to learn more about coaching sessions, devotionals, and resources designed to help you live a life rooted in faith and purpose.
You are seen. You are chosen. You are deeply loved.
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